Let's face it - not everyone has time for dating or maintaining a serious relationship. Serious relationships take hard work, and even then they can end far too easily. Dating is expensive, time consuming and can be entirely fruitless - a lot of smoke and just not too much fire. So what can you do in the meantime to have a little fun without risking a huge commitment? Easy - find and start a friends with benefits relationship.
What, exactly, does it mean to be friends with benefits? Simply put, that's a relationship where two people are close friends, but have no interest in dating one another and are not attached to anybody else.
Because a commitment is not desired, they're able to enjoy the physical parts of a relationship without all of the strings that typically come attached. Good friends are understanding of each others needs and so can satisfy them without any guilt or hard feelings.
So how can you go about finding a woman like this? Well, the first thing you need is a close friend that you feel very comfortable with and are physically attracted to.
You need to make sure that they are not currently involved in any other relationship or will not easily fall for you if you were to start a physical relationship. You can begin trying to find out their thoughts on becoming friends with benefits by joking around in a safe and secure setting. You may be surprised at how many people really are open to this kind of arrangement.
If they seem offended, walk away. It's not worth ruining a friendship over and there are other fish in the see. But if they seem into the idea, it's time to go to the next level: making sure they're serious. That's right - it's important to make sure they're serious about not being serious and that this is actually going to be a reality. Discuss it hypothetically and really get a grasp of their thoughts. Alcohol doesn't hurt in this setting - it will loosen both of you up so that you can have a completely honest discussion.
After that, if you're both on the same page, it's time to get things going. This is another occasion where going out for a drink could help. The more relaxed you are, the more fun you'll get to have together. Before you know it, you'll both be satisfied.
Going forward, it's important not to force any kind of schedule or routine on your friend - that hits too close to being a relationship. Instead, friends with benefits relationship are casual in nature and things will simply happen when they happen. When not focused on the physical part of your friendship, make sure to stay close in other ways so you don't lose this person in your life.
Whether you stay friends with benefits for years, or move on, or even go into a relationship, you can find true enjoyment and pleasure with someone who won't attach any stings.
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